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Every Parent’s Dream Can Become Their Worst Nightmare


Every parent’s dream is to have a happy and healthy child. But if parents ignore the obvious they may awaken one day to a living nightmare. Just ask the parents of Columbine, Sandy Hook and University of California students. It takes more to raise a healthy child than having them eat right, exercise and become educated. Health is often mistaken for wellness – which is defined as “a condition of good physical, mental and emotional health, especially when maintained by an appropriate diet, exercise, and other lifestyle modifications”. It is the lack of attention to mental and emotional health of children that can lead to violence and suicide, which devastates both families and communities.

Most parents are skilled at mind reading but do not use it often enough. You know when you call home from work and your child has said “yes” – but really has not finished their homework, or cleaned up their room. Check your child’s response to stress and look for the obvious: changes in appetite or sleep, social withdrawal, change in friends, signs of being upset such as sadness or tearfulness, and irritability. Mass murderers tend to have a history of pent-up frustration and failures, are socially isolated and vengeful, blaming others for their unhappiness, experts say.

“They all display deluded thinking and a lot of rage about feeling so marginalized,” James Garbarino, a professor of psychology at Loyola University Chicago, said in an email.

Dr. E. Fuller Torrey, a leading expert on severe mental illness, told “60 Minutes” in 2013 that many mass killings turn out to be committed by mentally ill people who were not receiving treatment. “About half of these mass killings are being done by people with severe mental illness, mostly schizophrenia. And if they were being treated, they would’ve been preventable,” he said.